WHY Kids Need Both?<\/h1>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>Our mission is to provide education and support to families facing child custody conflict.<\/h4>\n
Currently, despite the US Census Bureau reporting a decline in marriage and divorce rates from 2008 to present, nearly half of all marriages still end in divorce, many of which involve children. This often leads to intense legal battles between former partners with children, putting the children in a difficult position where they might feel compelled to take sides.<\/p>\n
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If no action is taken to address this issue or if the separation process is prolonged, the future consequences are predictable. The children may grow up feeling resentful for missing out on a harmonious childhood, and at worst, their relationships with one or both parents could be severely damaged. Such a tumultuous and disruptive experience might even lead to destructive patterns in their future relationships with partners and their own children.<\/p>\n
Recognizing the potential harm caused by this situation, Kids Need Both (KNB) takes a leading role in promoting awareness of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) in the legal system, parent education curriculum, and schools. The organization firmly believes that children require both parents and that both parents have the potential to perpetrate PAS or seek peaceful resolutions.<\/p>\n
KNB strives to change the approach to highly volatile custody battles, providing a model that emphasizes harmony and cooperation rather than destructive conflict. This way, concerned parents, child advocates, and the legal system can find a more productive and compassionate way of handling such sensitive situations.<\/p>\n<\/div>
Understanding the Family Law Environment<\/h3>\n
Expecting judges to remember all the minute details of your life throughout a day’s busy calendar is unrealistic. Being human, they can be influenced by biases, experience boredom, or feel tired, making their decisions unpredictable. Attorneys, on the other hand, are not trained to fulfill the role of counselors or coaches. Consequently, when a client seeks answers anxiously, an attorney may become annoyed and frustrated with their own client, leading to suboptimal representation.<\/p>\n
It is crucial to recognize the roles of these professionals and understand how they can assist you in your case. Familiarizing yourself with the available approaches is equally important. The following outlines the four primary methods to handle a family law case.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>
What Makes Our Model Different?<\/h3>\n
Let’s Compare 4 Approaches…<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>LITIGATIVE MODEL<\/h2>\n<\/div>ATTORNEY DRIVEN APPROACH<\/h4>\n
TIME:<\/strong>
\nContested: 9 months – 3 years
\nHigh-conflict child custody: 5-6 years<\/p>\nMONEY:<\/strong>
\nContested divorce: $30,000-$52,000
\nHigh-conflict child custody: $77,746 or higher<\/p>\nKEY FEATURES:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n
\n- Designed as a battle against the opposing party<\/li>\n
- Increases animosity between parties<\/li>\n
- Encourages a win\/lose mentality<\/li>\n
- Prone to escalate conflicts and potential violence<\/li>\n
- Contentious and emotionally draining<\/li>\n
- Has a profound negative impact on children<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>
<\/i><\/i><\/span>Learn More<\/span><\/a><\/h4><\/div>\nLITIGATION is a contested legal action where a judge or third party may make the final decisions for the parties involved if they don’t reach a settlement before trial. The process may include multiple hearings and temporary orders, ultimately leading to final orders on critical issues like custody, support, and asset division, often determined after a trial with witnesses. (ref. americanbar.org)<\/p>\n
The litigative approach can quickly escalate even in initially amicable situations. It is designed as a battle against the opposing party and can exacerbate existing conflicts. In some cases, employing a strong and aggressive attorney may force compliance with orders, but harmonious outcomes are rare in litigation.<\/p>\n
This adversarial approach increases animosity between parties, fosters a win\/lose mindset, and is susceptible to violence. It is a contentious and emotionally exhausting process that profoundly affects children. It is often compared to hostage negotiations, as it tends to damage parent-parent, child, and extended family relationships. Additionally, it can harm both parents financially, lead to hospitalizations, incarcerations, and have severe consequences on individuals and communities, such as suicides, homicides, and community unrest.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>
COLLABORATIVE LAW<\/h2>\n<\/div>LEGAL TEAM APPROACH<\/h4>\n
TIME:<\/strong>
\n8-14 months<\/p>\nMONEY:<\/strong>
\n$25,000-$50,000<\/p>\nKEY FEATURES:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Typically the parties are amicable.<\/li>\n
- Willingness to collaborate for a peaceful resolution<\/span><\/li>\n
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Focus on fair and equitable division of assets and child timeshare<\/p>\n
<\/span><\/li>\n
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Utilizes a team-based approach<\/span><\/p>\n<\/li>\n- \n
Our mission is to provide education and support to families facing child custody conflict.<\/h4>\n
Currently, despite the US Census Bureau reporting a decline in marriage and divorce rates from 2008 to present, nearly half of all marriages still end in divorce, many of which involve children. This often leads to intense legal battles between former partners with children, putting the children in a difficult position where they might feel compelled to take sides.<\/p>\n
If no action is taken to address this issue or if the separation process is prolonged, the future consequences are predictable. The children may grow up feeling resentful for missing out on a harmonious childhood, and at worst, their relationships with one or both parents could be severely damaged. Such a tumultuous and disruptive experience might even lead to destructive patterns in their future relationships with partners and their own children.<\/p>\n
Recognizing the potential harm caused by this situation, Kids Need Both (KNB) takes a leading role in promoting awareness of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) in the legal system, parent education curriculum, and schools. The organization firmly believes that children require both parents and that both parents have the potential to perpetrate PAS or seek peaceful resolutions.<\/p>\n
KNB strives to change the approach to highly volatile custody battles, providing a model that emphasizes harmony and cooperation rather than destructive conflict. This way, concerned parents, child advocates, and the legal system can find a more productive and compassionate way of handling such sensitive situations.<\/p>\n<\/div>
Understanding the Family Law Environment<\/h3>\n
Expecting judges to remember all the minute details of your life throughout a day’s busy calendar is unrealistic. Being human, they can be influenced by biases, experience boredom, or feel tired, making their decisions unpredictable. Attorneys, on the other hand, are not trained to fulfill the role of counselors or coaches. Consequently, when a client seeks answers anxiously, an attorney may become annoyed and frustrated with their own client, leading to suboptimal representation.<\/p>\n
It is crucial to recognize the roles of these professionals and understand how they can assist you in your case. Familiarizing yourself with the available approaches is equally important. The following outlines the four primary methods to handle a family law case.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>
What Makes Our Model Different?<\/h3>\n
Let’s Compare 4 Approaches…<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div> TIME:<\/strong> MONEY:<\/strong> KEY FEATURES:<\/strong><\/p>\n \n LITIGATION is a contested legal action where a judge or third party may make the final decisions for the parties involved if they don’t reach a settlement before trial. The process may include multiple hearings and temporary orders, ultimately leading to final orders on critical issues like custody, support, and asset division, often determined after a trial with witnesses. (ref. americanbar.org)<\/p>\n The litigative approach can quickly escalate even in initially amicable situations. It is designed as a battle against the opposing party and can exacerbate existing conflicts. In some cases, employing a strong and aggressive attorney may force compliance with orders, but harmonious outcomes are rare in litigation.<\/p>\n This adversarial approach increases animosity between parties, fosters a win\/lose mindset, and is susceptible to violence. It is a contentious and emotionally exhausting process that profoundly affects children. It is often compared to hostage negotiations, as it tends to damage parent-parent, child, and extended family relationships. Additionally, it can harm both parents financially, lead to hospitalizations, incarcerations, and have severe consequences on individuals and communities, such as suicides, homicides, and community unrest.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div> TIME:<\/strong> MONEY:<\/strong> KEY FEATURES:<\/strong><\/p>\n Focus on fair and equitable division of assets and child timeshare<\/p>\n <\/span><\/li>\n Utilizes a team-based approach<\/span><\/p>\n<\/li>\nLITIGATIVE MODEL<\/h2>\n<\/div>
ATTORNEY DRIVEN APPROACH<\/h4>\n
\nContested: 9 months – 3 years
\nHigh-conflict child custody: 5-6 years<\/p>\n
\nContested divorce: $30,000-$52,000
\nHigh-conflict child custody: $77,746 or higher<\/p>\n\n
<\/i><\/i><\/span>Learn More<\/span><\/a><\/h4><\/div>
COLLABORATIVE LAW<\/h2>\n<\/div>
LEGAL TEAM APPROACH<\/h4>\n
\n8-14 months<\/p>\n
\n$25,000-$50,000<\/p>\n\n